Discussion: I am a 40-year-old divorced sexual woman who needs erotic talk during intercourse. My boyfriend claims it interferes with his concentration.

Couples with good interpersonal communication can pre-coordinate different scenarios, including erotic talking, love words, postures, and places. The thought that sex must be spontaneous is not always the best option. It would help if you tried to produce agreed-upon scenes that connect the fantasies of both of you. There is a greater willingness to satisfy each other's fantasies when there is good communication between the couple.