Discussion: I am a 40-plus-year-old married woman with a constant sexual fantasy where some young men rape me! I'm a non-violent woman and do not understand why I always return to the same violent fantasy.

Fantasies have a significant advantage over reality. You can sketch your imagination as you would like with the man of your dreams! Although this is a seemingly violent script, it is semi-romantic. I'm pretty convinced that, in reality, you would not want to be raped. Rape is a horrible, traumatic, and indeed, not as romantic experience as you may be fantasizing about in your imagination. Many women have fantasies about having sex with a "stranger" who comes and takes them by storm for exciting intercourse; this is a pretty romantic scene, while rape is violent! If you have an excellent, trustable relationship, you may ask your partner to try to play role-playing games.