Discussion: We are 60 plus years old. My husband has Crohn's disease for many years. We do not have sex; I am an attractive woman and still feel the need to have sex. I do not know what to do?

There is no reason to avoid sex; on the contrary, sex brings closer and improves communication and contact between the couple. The need for connection and sex, as well as sexual fantasies, are often not affected by the chronic disease; what is involved is sexual performance! Most couples refrain from having an honest and direct conversation on the subject and only exacerbate the problem, so it is essential to have an expectation coordination conversation. When the spouse's relationship is loving, accepting, and containing, the healthy spouse can adapt to the sick spouse. The expectation of exciting and spontaneous sex is unrealistic. Men with chronic diseases (especially in the urinary tract) sometimes have erection difficulty, but sex, touch, hugging, and caressing should not be given up. Sex with patients with chronic illnesses is perhaps less exciting, but it can be full of love, no less than in young couples. Sex should be planned in a comfortable, quiet atmosphere and without stress.

Link: Improving sexual function In chronic patients and the disabled.
https://www.sf-healing.com/page/224 (Copy & Paste)