Discussion: I am a young man under 30 and have a nice girlfriend for two years. She flatly refuses anal sex, and it bothers me a lot?

For many women, anal sex has a negative image for several reasons: a feeling of submission and humiliation, pain and discomfort, potential infections (for those who do not comply with the hygiene rules), and a conservative or religious education that prohibits anal sex.

You can, of course, enjoy fun sex even without anal sex, but if the matter is profound and vital for you, there are several possible ways to try to convince your girlfriend:

1 humiliation is eliminated if the relationship is emotional and deep and there is profound trust. But you can't cheat. Women feel love, often without words.
2 It is advisable to have an open conversation about fulfilling fantasies on both sides in a relaxed atmosphere. You will be surprised, but women also have fantasies and desires!
3 You can ask your partner for a single experience on her chosen terms! (Hygiene, lubrication, romance, and more)
4 Anal sex requires maximum hygiene and lubricants (water-based) to prevent pain. (The porn movies, as you mentioned, are not a good example)