Discussion: There is no perfect relationship; most couples sometimes get into confrontations. We all need to know what to say and especially what not to say in quarrels with the spouse.

After harsh, blunt, brutal, and abusive words require self-confidence and courage to ask for forgiveness. Sometimes, even after an apology, the discomfort remains, so words that do not have a vicious and brutal message must be chosen. Especially when people are angry, they pull out the words without filtering. Spontaneity sometimes leads to terms we may regret later. Spontaneous people (like me) must pre-plan offensive messages to avoid words they may regret having said.